Dating violence cycle of abuse
“But the one emotion that determines and, for me, defines if there’s abuse or not is if one of them is afraid of the other.” Cases of domestic and dating violence often go unreported, but most that are reported are collected from the National Teen Dating Violence hotline.Texas ranks number two in the nation for call volume to the hotline and San Antonio ranks number four in the state behind Houston, Dallas, and Austin.City officials believe violence is a public health concern, though more often treated as a crime and safety issue.Experts like Pelaéz believe that violence is often a response to a person’s environment or accepted norms.She went to the shelter about two months ago and found specialized care, a place to stay, food to eat, and a community of supporters who are helping her get back on her feet after her traumatic experience, she said. Family Violence Prevention Services (FVPS) is just one of several local advocacy organizations that provide invaluable support for domestic abuse victims, and they never turn anyone away. But funding for such programs can be hard to come by, Pelaéz said.
Bearing witness to violence on a regular basis makes it psychologically difficult for many victims to leave their aggressors.Many adult and teenage perpetrators and victims alike have trouble identifying their own abusive relationship.“There is an array of emotions in a relationship between two people, all kinds of emotions, and it’s acceptable and understood,” said Marta Pelaéz, president and CEO of local nonprofit Family Violence Prevention Services, Inc.“When I was working he needed to know when I left work, how long it took me to get home from work, and why it took so long.” Thompson, like most victims, believed this behavior was normal. A lot of preventative teen dating violence initiatives in the city typically occur during February, Teen Dating Violence Prevention and Awareness Month.It wasn’t until she “woke up” one day during a serious, physical altercation with her ex-husband that she realized she needed to leave. This year, members of Joint Base San Antonio-Randolph Mental Health Clinic gave free classes to teens and parents that included information about the warning signs of dating violence, the use of social media as a control method, and how to respectfully and effectively communicate their feelings to dating partners.