Dating a borderline male
They may see you as their favorite person one minute and an evil person the next minute; this is informally called “splitting”.The person may also become clingy or move very, very fast as forming bonds very quickly and having poor boundaries is also a part of BPD.This may be because it’s thought that BPD could stem from early attachment issues in childhood, so another of the main symptoms is a ‘chronic fear of abandonment (real or perceived)’.When people pull away for any reason, that part of our illness goes into overdrive and this is where the disorder may get its bad name.Borderlines feel akin to emotional third degree burn victims, they have very thin skin emotionally and subtle slights which most people would dismiss can seriously hurt their feelings.It is easy to rub someone with BPD the wrong way and if you criticize them or if they perceive criticism, it will be met with overreactions.
If he/she senses that you are going to break off the relationship, they may go into survival mode and start searching for other partners in advance or cheat.
Now, obviously living in each others’ pockets is neither healthy nor feasible, and sometimes the intensity of someone with BPD’s love can be too much at first.
Some people pull away for space, which is possibly the hardest thing for us to take.
Some of the comments hit home because, from an early age, I have had an extremely tempestuous love life, but I also know it can work if both partners learn to understand each other.
As such, I’ll try and share my two cents on dating someone with BPD.
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Paranoia is a common symptom among people with BPD, and this can blow not replying to a text, because your phone was on silent, into your partner thinking you have been hit by a bus/run away with the circus/are having an affair with your boss, in under 30 minutes.