Christian women and dating
In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.I truly wanted to do what I felt was God’s will, but I also really didn’t want to give up the relationship.It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came.When friends began to point out other red flags about our relationship, I took some time to seriously seek God’s will on the matter.I’d been struggling with making a decision about this particular relationship for at least a year.Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. It’s not that my husband and I never disagree, or that we do not get on each other’s nerves periodically, but married life is so much simpler when you know that this is the person that God led you to.With that in mind, we know God will see us through whatever difficulties we face in the future.
“No, this is not the one for you.” After that I made the difficult decision to break up with the guy. But I’m convinced it is much less hurtful than spending your life being miserable in a marriage.
I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.
I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.